When I moved into my first college dorm room, I brought boxes and boxes of stuff with me. Things like childhood books and momentos; I don't remember exactly what, just that it was a lot.
Those first few weeks of college were totally exhilarating. I quickly made friends and thoroughly enjoyed my newfound independence. I soon realized that I didn't need as many hobbies and books as I did before. I didn't need to surround myself with so many sentimental items, because my present was full of new friendships and memories and adventures. On my first trip back to my parents' house, I returned a lot of stuff right back to my childhood bedroom.
And on the next trip.
And on the next trip, until I probably returned over half of what I had originally brought with me.
I learned a few things from this experience:
- Whenever I focus on the present and the future, I find it easier to let go of things.
- If I'm feeling happy and confident in my relationships, I find it easier to let go of things.
- I never need as much as I think I'm going to need.
Does anyone else feel an inverse connection between healthy relationships and the need to keep things?